Student Support and Advocacy Center

What Were You Wearing Exhibit

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The following gallery has powerful yet sensitive material surrounding stories of sexual assault from survivors in the GMU community. Please check in with yourself throughout viewing the gallery and be respectful to the stories shared.

What is the What Were You Wearing Exhibit?

The “What Were You Wearing” exhibit, an international survivor art installation, fights back against rape and sexual assault myths by displaying re-creations of the clothing survivors were wearing when they were assaulted. The purpose of this exhibit is to dispel the victim-blaming myth that clothing somehow invites sexual assault. Survivors of rape/sexual assault are often asked, “What were you wearing?”, which unfairly blames those who were harmed. Victims of crime are not responsible for the crimes committed against them.

Sexual Assault by the Numbers

38 Million

Individuals in the U.S. have been a victim of rape or attempted rape.

54.3%

Of women in the U.S. will experience rape, sexual coercion, or unwanted sexual contact during their lifetimes.

$122,461

The estimated amount of lifetime economic burden of rape. This includes medical expenses, property damages, lost work, and other expenses.

9,283

The number of calls to the Virginia Family Violence and Sexual Assault Hotline in 2023.

Information provided by the Virginia Department of Criminal Justice Services.

What I Was Wearing by Mary Simmerling

was this: from the top a white t-shirt

cotton short-sleeved and round at the neck

this was tucked into a jean skirt (also cotton)

ending just above the knees and belted at the top

underneath all this was a white cotton bra and white underpants (though probably not a set)

on my feet white tennis shoes the kind one plays tennis in

and then finally silver earrings, and lip gloss.

this is what i was wearing that day

that night that fourth of july in 1987.

you may be wondering why this matters

or even how i remember every item in such detail

you see i have been asked this question many times

it has been called to my mind many times

this question this answer these details.

but my answer much awaited much anticipated seems flat

somehow given the rest of the details of that night

during which at some point i was raped.

and i wonder what answer what details would give comfort

could give comfort to you my questioners seeking comfort

where there is alas no comfort to be found.

if only it were so simple

if only we could end rape by simply changing clothes

i remember also what he was wearing that night

even though it’s true that no one has ever asked.

We accept testimonies throughout the year. By submitting your story anonymously, we can continue to fight victim-blaming myths and fight against sexual violence. When you submit this form, it will not automatically collect your details like name and email address, unless you provide them yourself. 

If you need support, please contact:

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Fairfax County Domestic and Sexual Violence Services: