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The following gallery has powerful yet sensitive material surrounding stories of sexual assault from survivors in the GMU community. Please check in with yourself throughout viewing the gallery and be respectful to the stories shared.
What is the What Were You Wearing Exhibit?
Sexual Assault by the Numbers
38 Million
Individuals in the U.S. have been a victim of rape or attempted rape.
54.3%
Of women in the U.S. will experience rape, sexual coercion, or unwanted sexual contact during their lifetimes.
$122,461
The estimated amount of lifetime economic burden of rape. This includes medical expenses, property damages, lost work, and other expenses.
9,283
The number of calls to the Virginia Family Violence and Sexual Assault Hotline in 2023.
Information provided by the Virginia Department of Criminal Justice Services.
What I Was Wearing by Mary Simmerling
was this: from the top a white t-shirt
cotton short-sleeved and round at the neck
this was tucked into a jean skirt (also cotton)
ending just above the knees and belted at the top
underneath all this was a white cotton bra and white underpants (though probably not a set)
on my feet white tennis shoes the kind one plays tennis in
and then finally silver earrings, and lip gloss.
this is what i was wearing that day
that night that fourth of july in 1987.
you may be wondering why this matters
or even how i remember every item in such detail
you see i have been asked this question many times
it has been called to my mind many times
this question this answer these details.
but my answer much awaited much anticipated seems flat
somehow given the rest of the details of that night
during which at some point i was raped.
and i wonder what answer what details would give comfort
could give comfort to you my questioners seeking comfort
where there is alas no comfort to be found.
if only it were so simple
if only we could end rape by simply changing clothes
i remember also what he was wearing that night
even though it’s true that no one has ever asked.
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- Website: https://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/familyservices/domestic-sexual-violence
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