A healthy relationship can occur between many different kinds of people like partners, couples, or just someone you’ve been on a few dates with. No matter if it’s a serious relationship or just a fling, you want it to be healthy!
Basically, a healthy relationship is a connection that brings out the best in you and makes you and the other person happy. These kinds of relationships have trust, sharing, respect, and in more intimate relationships, healthy sexuality.
A healthy relationship should have ALL of these things:
- Communication… how you express what you’re thinking and feeling, either with your words, body language, or attitude is very important. A healthy relationship needs open and honest communication in order to be successful!
- Accountability… being able to admit you’re wrong sometimes is essential to a healthy relationship. It’s really important to accept responsibility for the things you do or have done in the past.
- Mutual Support… being supportive of the goals and dreams each other have is a good thing! It’s also important to support your partner’s right to their feelings and opinions.
- Choice… being able to do what you’d like to do and supporting/being supportive of your partner doing the same!
- Shared Responsibility… making important decisions together and making sure both of you have equal responsibilities at maintaining things within the relationship!
- Economic Partnership… If you are in a serious relationship with your partner and live with them and pay things together, make sure both of you are on the same page about financial matters!
- Negotiation and Fairness… being able to compromise and willing to accept change so that both of you can be happy with the outcome!
- Non-Threatening Behavior… just making sure your communication is positive and there is no worry of safety within the relationship.
Eight Steps to Maintaining a Healthy Relationship
- Be aware of what you and your partner want for yourselves and what you want from the relationship.
- Let one another know what your needs are.
- Realize that your partner will not be able to meet all your needs. Some of these needs will have to be met outside of the relationship.
- Be willing to negotiate and compromise on the things you want from one another.
- Do not demand that a partner change to meet all your expectations. Work to accept the differences between your ideal mate and the real person you are dating.
- Try to see things from the other’s point of view. This doesn’t mean that you must agree with one another all the time, but rather that both of you can understand and respect each other’s differences, points of view, and separate needs.
- Where critical differences do exist in your expectations, needs, or opinions, try to work honestly and sincerely to negotiate. Seek professional help early rather than waiting until the situation becomes critical.
- Do your best to treat your partner in a way that says, “I love you and trust you, and I want to work this out.”
The B.E.E-ginning of a Healthy Relationship
- Build. Build a foundation of appreciation and respect. Focus on all the considerate things your partner says and does. Happy couples make a point of noticing even small opportunities to say “thank you” to their partner, rather than focusing on mistakes their partner has made.
- Establish. Establish a pattern of apologizing if you make a mistake or hurt your partner’s feelings. Saying “I’m sorry” may be pretty hard in the moment but goes a long way towards healing a rift in a relationship. Your partner will trust you more if he or she knows that you will take responsibility for your words and actions.
- Explore. Explore each other’s interests and passions so that you have a long list of things to enjoy together. Try new things together to expand mutual interests.
How well do you know your partner?
One of the most important features of successful couple relationships is the quality of the friendship. Do you know your partner’s inner world? Think you know enough about your partner? Take a quick quiz to find out!
Building blocks for emotional connection
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